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Like Mom & Dad, Leaders Need to Get on the Same Page, Now!

“You can have a good product and good market opportunity but if you don’t have good management, you don’t have much at all.” - Phil Dur, venture capitalist, as quoted by Fortune at

How many times have you worked for partners who couldn’t agree on much of anything? Or, with entire management teams or boards  for that matter.

You know the drill, if one partner (insert other descriptors here), usually located way down the other end of the hall from the other, doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, all you have to do is run to the opposite end of the hall for the answer you’ve been looking for.

The good news is you get some great exercise out of the short run, but the bad news is what happens in the long run.

It doesn’t take long for a dysfunctional leadership team to spread like the flu bug and infect the entire organization with the disease.

You may get what you want, but ultimately, you will  lose trust with leadership and yourself. And, without trust, there will be no consistent results.

If you are this type of “leader”, you don’t need business or leadership books du jour to tell you what to do. You need lessons in good parenting skills and if worse comes to worse … you need Super Nanny!

In fact, you need to go to the Naughty Kid Corner and think why you’re there. It’s not your team members that are the problem.

Think about these exerpts from Dr.Randy Kale’s Stop Whining Now blog:

YOUR CHILD MUST BELIEVE IN YOU. He or she should know that when mom and dad say something, they mean it. When mom and dad put a limit, then that IS the limit. If your limits keep on changing everyday and you and your partner differ in them, it gets tough for your child to grasp your message.

  • Pledge to resolve your differences. You should know that the healthy development of children is mainly dependent on a uniform message from both the parents. Different messages from mom and dad confuse the child and fail to inculcate true values in him or her.
  • Identify what is important to you. Sort out your preferences as well as your differences in matters of parenting.

When we face this challenge with our clients we tell them the answer is simple.


Oh, and get rid of the walls while you’re at it. Being in the same room makes it even better. Then there is no misunderstanding when a decision has been made that an agreement to abide by that decision has also been made.

The word will quickly circulate that playing one leader against the other will not be tolerated (again, taking from a lesson on good parenting ).

You know the drill. First leadership has to trust and respect each other before you can expect others in the organization to trust each other. And always remember, no trust, no consistent results.

As members of your team, we may not always like what you say, but we will respect that you stand together as leaders with your decisions.

At Catch Your Limit, we say, “fish stink at the head.”

It’s true in nature and true in organizations.

If you are the leader or part of a leadership team and you smell something fishy, it could very well be you.

Start by tearing down the halls and walls, physical or mental, that stand in the way of leaders reaching commitment. A unified vision and unified support of how to get where you’re going will go a long way towards jelling the organization and achieving your goals.

The two most important mentors of this world – mom and dad – must show their child that they are capable and reliable. And, no matter their styles or differences or how they arrive at decisions they must be on the same page.

The same goes for leaders.

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