I think people would like to think of themselves as static. Static in the sense that they “are”. They are this or they are that. It’s confusing to be neither, nor. When you’re neither this nor that it’s difficult to have an identity. This need for certainty makes it very uncomfortable when you come to a stage where you recognize that what you have thought you were no longer fits who you now feel you are.
I ask people what it feels like when they know they’re in a state of transformation and everyone I’ve asked has expressed some degree of fear. That was how I’ve felt. I think the fear is related to an impending sense of loss. The loss of what was and the anxiety that what they’re getting (the new) may not be as good or valuable as what they’re giving up (the old).
I’ve metaphorphed several times in my life; occassionally, by choice. None the less the first time was scary. Each time since has been a little less scary. I haven’t experienced an absence of fear, but it hasn’t lasted as long and having survived previous transformations I have faith I’ll come out the other end this time as well.
Circling back to my premise that transformation is about giving up to get. Experiencing fear about the unknown is normal. Staying in a situation that you know no longer fits because of the uncertainty about what the future may hold is unhealthy.
Speaking for myself, I feel most comfortable once I’ve made decisions. The same thing holds true when I procrastinate. I always feel better once I start to do whatever I’m supposed to do.
To wrap this little metaphysical ramble, businesspeople would like to be one thing or another. However, periodically what they have been no longer suits the market. This disconnect frequently manifests itself in declining sales. When that occurs everybody feels the pain. The “secret” is to pay attention for when the discomfort first starts making itself felt. Because no business people who are making money want to change what’s working; most business people will ignore the early warning signals. It’s just human nature. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
So listen up folks. Listen for early warning signals. Ignore them at your own risk.
><(("> Gayle Turner
Gayle is a ><(("> Team Member at Catch Your Limit, a consulting firm headquartered in Richmond, Virginia. To learn more, visit www.catchyourlimit.com.